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Why is prayer so hard?
”…pray constantly.” – 1 Thess. 5:17
Situation Explained
Do you need to pray more? Join the club.
Solution Offered
I’ve traveled thousands of miles this summer. I’ve been to numerous events in a variety of states. I’ve spoken to and prayed with more people than I can count, and do you know what? Everybody I talk to needs the same thing…
Prayer.
It’s what all of us have in common as Christians, no matter how strong or weak we feel in our faith, no matter how close or far from God wefeel, almost every person I talk to admits or declares, “I need to pray more”.
Prayer isn’t complicated but it is tough. Prayer takes effort. Prayer takes discipline. Prayer isn’t about the perfect words or the perfect schedule. Prayer is about desiring the perfect relationship with God and trusting that He’ll fill in the gaps for our imperfections.
There are a ton of reasons we don’t pray more. Here is a brief list of some of the most popular:
• We’re not in a state of grace
• We’re in a habit of putting other things first
• We don’t really trust God
• We think prayer has to be formal
• We are easily distracted
• We don’t know where to start
This is not a complete list, but most of the people I talk to say that one or all of these reasons contribute to their not praying more or enough or at all.
If you’re not in a state of grace (if you have serious sin that you haven’t reconciled yet), it is more difficult to pray. Sin deafens our ears, blinds our eyes and hardens our hearts. If you haven’t been to confession in a while, tell Jesus you know you need to go, and then get there. That admission and action is the first step to a great prayer life.
If you’re not in the habit of praying, we can solve that. Keep reading.
If you don’t trust God, it’s because you don’t really know Him as well as you need to…you might know things about Him, but trust comes from intimacy and intimacy comes through prayer. The more you pray, the easier it will become to trust Him. Keep reading.
If you think personal prayer has to be formal - don’t, because it doesn’t. Scripture reminds us it ain’t about the words of our mouths (Romans 8:26) but the words of our hearts. If you’re easily distracted, me too. What were we talking about? Oh ya, prayer. Keep reading.
If you don’t know where to start…that’s why I’m typing this, so let me share what works for me…since I failed for more years than you’ve probably been alive. Learn from my mistakes.
How do you “pray constantly” like this Scripture verse says? I mean, you have to work and eat and sleep. Didn’t St. Paul know that?
Of course he did. What he was telling the people in Thessalonica is the same thing he’d tell you today. Don’t forget that everything you do, if you offer it up for God’s glory, can be a form of prayer. If God is on your mind, if Christ is in your heart and if the Holy Spirit is guiding your actions, steps and words…anything can be a prayer.
Make your morning routine of waking up and getting ready a form of prayer. Talk to God during it. Offer your day up to Him as you’re showering or getting dressed, drinking coffee or having breakfast.
Make your morning drive a time of prayer. Change what music you listen to or, better yet, drive in silence. Pray for those in traffic who are rude. Pray for those in cars not as nice as yours, or at bus stops or on foot. Use the time to grow in the virtues of temperance and patience.
Make your school day or your work day forms of prayer. Pray for those who annoy you. Submit to authority with respect and obedience; there is grace in obedience, you’ll grow from it. Work hard. Stay focused. Constantly check your attitude. “Put on” Christ, which means…do everything in your power to be like Jesus. Let the Holy Spirit work and speak through you.
Make your meals a prayer. Begin with grace, sure, but treat your body as a temple. Eat healthy. Use that time to grow in fellowship with those you eat with. If you’re eating alone, use that time to pray or grow in knowledge through reading. Remain mindful, with each bite, of those who go without food and basic necessities like water, each day. Pray for them and pray in thanksgiving for all those blessings you take for granted each day.
Make your time at home more of a prayer. Engage those you live with in more meaningful conversations. Don’t go to bed unless you know what the people in your house are struggling with or needs prayers for that day. Create more prayerful spaces in your home or your bedroom. Put things up that remind you to pray and that guide your thoughts and heart back to Christ.
Make your bedtime ritual a form of prayer. Reflect back on your day. Look at where you fell short, where you failed to show kindness or mercy to others. Look at where you need to improve tomorrow and ask the Holy Spirit for the strength to do better. Turn off the t.v. and go to bed earlier. Spend some time talking to God, yes, but also listening to God (not music) as you fall asleep.
These are the simple ways you “pray constantly”. Try to get into this rhythm and before you know it, you’ll be praying more in a day than you used to in a month.
You come from God, so your whole life is designed to be a prayer - the sooner you realize it, the easier your prayer will become. It’s pretty amazing that St. Paul could tell us so much in just two little words, huh?
Salvation Given
”…pray constantly.” – 1 Thess. 5:17
Ready, set…pray.